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Reminders.

Posted on August 15, 2011 | Leave a comment

Some dear friends of ours surprised us this past Mother’s Day. They had adopted a flower bed at our local park and dedicated it to B. They adorned the area with colorful dragonflies and a special blue rock, named in remembrance of B. We find it has become somewhat difficult for T for visit the cemetery; we accept it and choose not to push the issue. When he feels the need, he visits with us. Otherwise, he has his own reminders of B., including the park flower bed. He requests to go to the park to see the flowerbed, then have a game of tennis…When there, he will recall funny moments we have had with B at that park and the nearby lake (such as T and B being chased by the mean geese!) Reminders like these keep B’s spirit alive for T and for us. The flowerbed brings a smile to our faces as we spend time in the park, simply watching T run and play. Believe it or not, every so often, a dragonfly flies by us while playing there. We know who it is, and T points it out every time…

Along came Zoey…

Posted on August 5, 2011 | 3 comments

We were never a family that enjoyed pets. I mean, my husband had no patience and I simply didn’t have the time to care for them. We loved animals, but as my husband would say, “Just not in our house.” Strange, considering he grew up in an animal-loving family. Well, I am very proud to say that Zoey has joined our family. How things change! While in therapy, actually, they spoke of how dogs can be helpful to those that are grieving. They recommended us getting a dog quite early on…didn’t happen. However, as time passed, we missed the “life” that used to fulfill our home. By no means had it become a depressed home, but it just became a somewhat sad, quiet place. So, we began the long search for our perfect dog. We thought a dog would lift all of our spirits-and did it! She is now 8 months old and is T’s playful pal. Seeing him laugh out loud again makes me smile. Yes, a pet is work, but we decided Zoey was worth it. Animals, especially dogs, have a keen sense of knowing how to warm our hearts and our hearts are beginning to feel that warmth again.